If you want your employees/staff to be engaged with you and your business, seeking feedback from them is crucial to be a respected and successful leader. Being trusted and respected are innate values we seek in others, which is backed up by psychological research. According to Amy Cuddy – Author of Presence, the immediate questions we ask on a subconscious level, when we meet someone for the first time are –
Can I trust you? and Do I respect you?
This goes back to caveman times when we were concerned if we were going to be killed or if having a relationship with this person could be advantageous for survival. It’s therefore fundamental to our overall strategy to survive.
If you aren’t showing your true self, people will hold back the truth from you, which doesn’t help you to be the best leader of your business.
It’s hard to make yourself vulnerable in this way but as the wonderful Brene Brown puts so well, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change”.
Are you brave enough to start the process?
If you are then the questions below are taken from The Coaching Manual and are a good place to start. Answer these questions yourself, then give the blank set of questions to a couple of your team to complete for you. Tell them it’s really important for them to be honest. Be vulnerable.
- What are my strengths?
- What is it that people really value me for?
- What are my weaknesses, what do I need to get better at?
- How do people experience me generally, i.e. how might they describe me?
- How am I different when I’m under pressure e.g. during interactions with others?
- What three things could I stop doing that would make me more effective?
- What three things do I need to start doing, or do more often?
I’ve done mine and happy to share with anyone who wants to know. I’m also very happy to receive feedback.
Happy Friday! Hope you all have a great weekend! 🙂